November 11, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
Your Body is a miraculous system of chemical reactions that are going on 24/7. If you don’t believe me, look into Gray’s Anatomy book or Physiology 101. It is mind-blowing. Your body will continue to keep you alive until it cannot anymore. It will give you all sorts of warnings, blow whistles (for real), knock you down (you know what I mean), and refuse to stay up for another minute (remember that time?).
Instinctively we know how to take care of ourselves, but the majority of what’s really going on in self-care is dictated by our upbringing and social habits. For example:
- You know that cleaning up your plate full of food is not good for you because you already been full third way to there. But mother’s/grandmother’s/father’s/etc. voice in your head says: “You got to clean your plate. There are children in Africa dying from hunger” (By the way, it doesn’t make any sense, it would make sense if you would send your plate to Africa to feed these children. But somehow you feel guilty of being un-deservingly lucky.) And you shove that food down your own throat.
- You are at the bar at 11 pm and know that drinking the third martini is not going to help you get up in the morning and work out. But it is expected of you by your friends/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/neighbors/etc. So you order that third glass.
You know it’s not good for you but you do it anyway. All these beliefs and habits that don’t really belong to you, you inherited from somebody else, and in some cases invented all by yourself to reach some important goal – all of them create a heavy weight holding you down. It manifests in the physical overweight body, in mental fogginess, in low energy, in anxiety, and in million other yucky symptoms you rather not have. Take your pick.
We are here to help you change that and condition your mind and body for the best performance possible. You don’t have any more time to waste – the world is full of opportunities and wonders, and you can get them by having your health in the most optimal condition.
The successful weight loss and health maintenance consist of:
- Dietary support of the body’s detoxification processes, hormone balancing, and weight stabilizing
- Elimination of toxins through detoxification pathways
- Lifestyle practices that support healthy body and success-oriented peaceful mind
In the future blog posts, I will share with you more about each component of the above, because each component is it’s own world and has to be taken care of.
But the most important message here is that all these components got to be put together in a coordinated system and phases. I believe in science and natural medicine. They are not mutually exclusive – quite the opposite.
Science is your guide to knowing what to be corrected naturally.
Some of the components include dietary changes based on science and common sense. If you are a proponent of personal approach – then meal plans can be based on the results of your blood tests. We can identify your food sensitivities and nutritional deficiencies to create the most optimal plan for your individual situation. It can be customized.
Your nutrition can be customized even further to match the DNA genetic requirements of your body. You can have a complete lifestyle plan for many components of your life to match your genomics profile. It is your truly Custom Lifestyle Plan to stick to.
Highlights of the Approach:
- Establishing a healthy diet supporting your lifestyle and your life goals.
- Creating an easy to maintain System for self-care – physically and emotionally.
- Lifestyle strategies to establish and use through different stages of your life.
- Find and use Mind conditioning tools to your overall success.
- Get educated on nutrition, successful mindset, and healthy habits.
And the most important of all – get overall invested in your health and happiness. And then you can create health and happiness for others who are near and dear to you.
October 19, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
We live in a daze of information. I have a feeling that we always lived in some daze created by somebody, or something influencing our minds, our free will, etc. Shamans call it “domestication,” science calls it “adaptation,” I call it “forgetting who you are.” Since we are born, somebody is telling us what to do and what to think – starting with our parents (well-meaning or not).
Whenever I do deep neuro-emotional repatterning work with my patients I observe deep roots of any obstacles tracing into childhood years.
And it is practically always in response to something with people who are so essential to us, their reactions – not only to our actions, but also to their environment, and even more importantly – to what is going on in their minds.
We learn to adapt, we get in the habit of guessing what is in the other person’s mind, and we learn to second-guess ourselves.
Hey, if, for example, your family is telling you (since you were born) that you are a future lawyer, you might believe in it on your deepest level. You will try on all the personal and professional qualities of all the lawyers you know in person or virtually. Some of these qualities might not agree with you, so you will try to either adapt or to change them to your personality.
After all, there is no choice – in your subconscious mind. And if the dissonance is overwhelming – you break out of that “lawyer” spell and do your own thing. Do you still carry an emotional charge about it?
Look at our rebellious teenagers! What are they doing? They are finding their way in the world despite directives and subliminal messages from their parents and the society. The stronger these messages are – the stronger the rebellion will be. They are learning to navigate the world of tumbler and bitcoins – the uncharted territory for most of us.
If you think our kids don’t have a discipline, and this is why we cannot understand what they are doing – think again. Look around you – we all are swimming in the ocean of conflicting powerful and fast-changing information dissolving every rule and every border there is.
Every concept that was installed in our minds years ago, and in turn we introduced (consciously or not) in our babies’ minds is now under subliminal revision from that ocean of information. Our kids are trying to find who they are. It looks like they are failing – to us – with our limited perception. I hope they will succeed. I know – they will.
But back to us – adults.
If you are trying to understand who you are and what you should do (big surprise! – you are doing it and so everybody else with IQ > 80) – you got to look at your immediate environment and take an inventory.
- Where do you live?
- With whom do you live?
- What do you do every day?
- Who are the people you are communicating with?
- Why are you communicating with any of them?
- Do you like these people and why?
- Why are you communicating with people you don’t like? Hmm?
- What are the rules in your daily life?
- What are the rules in your mind?
- Do these sets of rules match?
- What are your future rules – the rules of your fantasy happy life?
- If you don’t know where you are, you will not know how to get to your destination.
- Oh wait, do you know your destination?
- Have you clearly defined where you are going?
Are you an Aimless Wanderer?
If being an aimless wanderer is what you enjoy, then you don’t have to define any start point or destination. But then don’t blame yourself or anybody else for not getting what you want. It might be a period in life for that – weeks, years, as much as it requires and it might be what the person needs at that point.
There is only one rule for aimless wanderers – a strong faith that nothing is up to them, that they have no control in their life at all. They completely surrender. The best place to do it is a monastery, but perhaps there are other possibilities. It’s not as easy as it seems to be.
Whether we want it or not, there are rules in our society, and the more virtual world information borders dissolve, the more universal these external rules become. However, our internal rules stay the same as we are reluctant to change that fast. Our DNA process doesn’t evolve so quickly. It’s trying to make adjustments, and in working extra hard its making mistakes in repairs of broken links. Literally.
Do you see where the growing conflict is?
So, now more then ever, if you are feeling dissatisfied, you have to take the inventory above. It’s not a Ph.D. program; it’s a short something you have to do every few months – again, due to the ever-changing external environment. It changes our present coordinates, and we got to recalculate again.
Last year you thought you are in that specific place and surrounded by such and such – on your immediate and global levels. Now – it looks like you are in the same physical place but everything changed around you – your body, meaning of things and concepts, people’s behaviors, new ways of doing things, technology, beliefs, etc.
Soon the drones will be carrying Amazon packages to your door, that you will be paying for with bitcoins. You see what I mean? Wait, what is a bitcoin!?!
If you honestly look around, you are in the different place altogether from what you fantasized. It can be disorienting. What if something you believed for many years is not true anymore – and you have the perfect evidence. You will need to change your beliefs, but your entire world is based on these beliefs, you spent years in building your world.
It might be painful even to think about it, leave alone to change it.
I have to tell you an important piece of information. This situation I just described is a major cause of serious health conditions. Any conflict festering in your mind is so dangerous that it must be dealt with as soon as possible.
So, if for years you cannot lose those stubborn 10-15 lbs, suffering from chronic fatigue, adrenal insufficiency, depression, anxiety, insomnia, etc. – you might be searching for an answer in places that don’t have that answer.
People are showing up at my clinic, desperate and hopeless, telling me how conventional medicine failed them, and how they believe in holistic approach now. And asking right after: What herb should I take to heal myself, can I buy it on Amazon, and how many acupuncture sessions it will take to be healthy again.
This mindset is not going to work. Not in health, not in life, nowhere. We have to do something with that mindset because the life as I see it – is going to be even more different really soon.
I have always been a sort of a visionary, and I still like what I see in the future with all the challenges, disappointments, revolutions, and the new society. I’m doing the work that’s desperately needed – preparing the global platform for more people to learn the mindset, skills, and tools to change their lives and to be happy in the new society that is forming.
If even one person can do it – you can do it too. Take the inventory!
October 11, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
I have to start with a disclaimer. This is a sensitive topic, and our opinions might not match. So my view on this comes from my clinical work with my patients, their stories, their pain, and suffering.
In our modern time, people turned to alternative medicine when they already tried and failed at everything else conventional medical. And in many occasions previously been misdiagnosed, operated on for no good reason, given dozens of pharmaceutical prescription medication, and so on.
It is emotionally challenging to listen to people suffering from a sense of betrayal by their well-recommended doctors.
Yes, I believe people suffer even more from betrayal then from the actual pain when they are misled by highly trained medical professionals who took upon themselves the highest authority to decide how to influence the patient into aggressive surgical or pain management plan.
Agreed, sometimes it saves lives and necessary. However, I have personally seen many patients who didn’t have to undergo aggressive surgical procedures based on vague diagnostic results. Others were put on a pain management drug treatment indefinite program. And often people experience both – unnecessary surgery – more pain – indefinite pain management program.
Don’t you think it is a nightmare for somebody to be told by the end of long and painful treatment that they will never be pain and drug-free?
When these people make it to my clinic, broken physically and emotionally, they expect a one-session miracle. And I want to say: “Where were you before you went under the knife? Why didn’t you explore non-invasive, non-medicated option when it just started happening with you?”. I don’t say it because it will not change anything. But the treatment plan becomes more challenging than it could be. However neuro-emotional work often provides fast results even in challenging cases.
You got to realize that any, absolutely any surgery changes everything in the body. If you have surgery in one part of the spine, the other part will start having issues. If you took the organ out – other organs would have to compensate for that. If you have a facelift – one side of your face might heal differently then the other, and your face might be asymmetric or inflamed.
So, how to find a good doctor?
Some doctors take care of the body. You go to them with pain, flu, broken bones, yearly checkup, etc.
Some doctors take care of the mind. You go to them with mental and emotional problems.
But this is the puzzle – as body and mind are not separate, just as your physical stomach and the spasm in your stomach from stress are not independent of each other. Just as your physical heart and heart palpitation you have from intense emotions are not separate.
- You have got to find a doctor who takes care of your body and your mind together. And if you are lucky – checking on the condition of your spirit as well.
- Your doctor has to be kind and listening to you. If he/she is not kind – it’s a big red flag. Would you marry somebody who verbally abuses and belittles you? Some people do, but it’s a topic for another article.
I don’t know why some people choose a profession of helping others and become unkind and inattentive to their patients. If anything, a medical profession made me more human then ever before.
It is not a rocket science for any doctor (MDs, DOs, etc.) to get educated in the functional and holistic medicine. It takes time and lots of money. It requires personal sacrifices – of time, relationships, resources, and many others. I (along with some other doctors I know and love) invest most of my resources on my education in the latest clinical diagnostics, studying genetic analysis (rapidly developing field), and more holistic medicine. I believe I have a responsibility to my patients (and to people who will come to my clinic for days to come ) to get knowledgeable in 360 degrees approach to their overall health. And so every doctor has that responsibility. At least a little bit.
Many years ago I was a successful computer programmer working for Wall St markets, and I was very computer-like, so I didn’t understand people that much. But after getting a medical degree and learning the intricate connection of mind-body-spirit, the amazing miracle of a human body, internal chemical balance, the brain, the way emotions affect the physical body – wow, that made me very human. That made me compassionate.
So I think I know what a good doctor is.
- He/she is knowledgeable, reputable, have a license to practice, has all the credentials.
- He/she has to offer alternatives, to be knowledgeable about other options, about the latest research in functional medicine, alternative medicine, mind-body connection.
- He/she takes time to listen to all your concerns (by active listening), asks you lots of seemingly unrelated questions about your life, takes time to explain to you everything so you clearly understand, to look you in the eyes and make a connection with real you. It’s hard to not care about a patient after we feel that connection.
Try this. Go to the mirror and make an eye connection with your reflection, and see how long you can hold your own gaze. At some point, you will connect to yourself, and you will care. You will see the pain, suffering, hope, fear, love – all the gamut of emotions, and you will care. It will not be easy to do, by the way, if you are one of us – regular modern people.
So your doctor has to care. Otherwise, all is lost. You cannot trust a person who doesn’t care. It has to be personal for him/her. You have to matter to him/her. Really matter.
Then you know – you matter. Then you can trust your doctor with your life.
September 28, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
One rainy day I happened to be climbing the trekking route to Mt. Everest base camp, and this particular day was especially hard. It was raining most of the day and trail was really steep and slippery.
Also, I had no idea when we get to the next stop and what to expect. Everything important to me at that moment was inside my backpack protected by a plastic cover. And I realized – only a few more things in life were important to me in addition to these few belongings.
Perhaps I needed a little bigger backpack for things. The rest of importance was of people surrounding me, supporting me, helping each other get to the top. If I missed something from my backpack, somebody would always have it to cover me. On that track, I got a valuable lesson in relationships and importance.
I love my luxuries. I like fine dining, international travel, expensive clothes, luxury cars. I didn’t have a privileged childhood and everything I have I worked hard for. There been a time things kept me feeling safe like nothing bad can happen to me… But things are not about that at all.
I believe we often (subconsciously) surround ourselves with things to define us. If you have that purse it means you are …, if you wear that fur coat it means you are with … and so on.
Maybe you disagree, but it’s what came to me after seeing hundreds of clients, and after my own life-changing events. And I still love my luxuries, but the attitude towards them has changed.
Everything carries information. Everything you touch, breathe, eat, drink, see transfer some information to you. That’s why people love beautiful things – they see a pleasant information. When you start perceiving things on a deeper level, you get access to different information. Not all of that information is good for you – be careful. If you pay attention you can actually feel what takes your energy away, and what makes your energy increase.
My father is a hoarder, less now than before. I love my father, he is awesome, and he taught me a lot. He also couldn’t let go of anything (thankfully we didn’t have much to start with). I think he was afraid of losing parts of him he was missing – the happy moments associated with different times. My father is also very creative – he can invent new things, and create virtual worlds for himself and others – in many ways. I think, perhaps, physical clutter kept him grounded and connected to the reality.
Do you think your things keep you connected to your past and ideas about how things should be?
Every moment you are changing so rapidly – everything in you is changing, and the world around you is changing too. If you could perceive it fully you could lose your mind, so the brain safety mechanisms are in place to change your perception of time. You actually feel almost no movement, and sense almost no change. Your brain works this way to keep you safe. Perhaps too safe…
When you free up a space to look around you (externally as well as internally), you will see new possibilities, new ideas, new people. You will feel the world changing. It maybe is scary, but fear is only in your mind – nobody died from throwing away an old shirt or chipped cup or even the well-deserved trophy.
You will not suffer from stopping believing that old crap about yourself. You know better. But some of these beliefs are tied to things you surround yourself with – so you got to let them go.
De-cluttering your home is probably one of the most emotionally challenging things you can do in your entire life! We develop intense emotional attachments to our home surrounding, mostly because we need to feel safe and secure at home. Paradoxically enough, many things in our home not even remotely making us feel safe. We have things that subconsciously bring painful memories, regrets, longing for the past, and reminders of failure.
I’m a big proponent of minimalism, as I think better when there is no clutter. I tried clutter, it worked for me, then I tried to get rid of everything, and it worked even better.
If you want to make a change in your life, your environment got to be a part of it; there is no way around it. If you want to be lighter – weight-wise and emotionally, you got to be lighter with your material goods. You got to identify what is important, really important.
So, material goods are necessary, but you got to choose wisely and retain a few.
The human relationships are far more important.
Remember that when you are clearing your clutter.
September 19, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
If you are like me, the chances are you don’t celebrate your successes. Big and small. I mean (maybe) saying to yourself “good job” and moving to the next thing almost immediately. And still feeling dissatisfaction from the job not “really well” done, or thoughts “I could do it better,” or the feeling that there are better things out there to be done, etc.
The internal mental chatter doesn’t stop for most of us. I’m happy for you if you don’t have it – then copy the link to this article and send it to somebody who sill is going through it. They will thank you for that.
What I just described is a sign of “perfectionist gone unrealistic”. There is nothing wrong with striving to do a perfect job, that’s how we succeed in life and rise above our competitors. We want to do things better than others. Evidently, it stresses us out, and it’s ok – the short-term stress is a sign of an evolution, and it’s healthy. Problems happen when the suffering from the lack of complete perfection never stops. In fact, it gets worse with time, because every achievement in life “could be better,” so dissatisfaction accumulates.
It is such a crazy pattern if you think about it rationally. But our mind is far from rational. In fact, most of the time we are driven by our instincts, associations, habits, and emotions. Cognitive abilities are only one part of your brain; the rest is similar to animals. The cognitive mind is what differentiates us from animals, and the survival instinct can drive even cognitive behavioral patterns.
The problem with chronic emotional stress is that it is one of the main components leading to chronic adrenal fatigue – a debilitating physical condition that rarely resolves completely. The best preventative thing to do is recognize patterns leading you to experience chronic stress and resolve all the components of that pattern. When you start disassembling any pattern it has a good chance to dismantle. The next best thing is to know what you want to substitute it with.
So what do you define as an achievement?
I looked up the dictionary just now, and this is what I found:
achievement – 1. a thing done successfully, typically by effort, courage, or skill: to reach this stage is a great achievement. 2. the process or fact of achieving something: the achievement of professional recognition | assessing ability in terms of academic achievement | a sense of achievement.
So, to achieve something you have to apply an “effort, courage, or skill” and recognize that you have a “thing done successfully.”
How would you know all of that? Does it come as an external feedback or an internal feeling? For different people it is a different experience, however, in both cases, it also has to do with how we interpret either.
The sense of satisfaction and achievement is a matter of belief system related to pride, survival, and leadership. Any constricting beliefs related to it will impact the way we feel satisfied. We start building this particular complex belief system early in life – as our family and society interpreted our first actions in their world. Please note: “in their world.” Based on their values, beliefs, and lifestyle choices. You had to comply.
Well, many years passed, and now it’s all up to you how you want to experience your life, and you have been doing well for yourself (for example you have a computer and internet to read this article).
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be more joyful about your small and big achievements, and left judgmental of yourself and others?
Even if you already are, how much more joy can you take?
Practical Steps to Feeling an Achievement:
- Know where you are going so when you get there you will be able to recognize it.
It’s like if you are traveling to mt. Everest but have no way of knowing you got there because there are no big signs identifying the place (actually for mt. Everest there are signs, but for smaller mountains there are none).
How will you know you got there? What is the physical evidence you did it? What is different in your life – physical and emotional compared to before?
2. When you have any evidence of an accomplishment, notice the internal talk.
Recognize whose words are these words. Whose voice is that voice? Where is the talk coming from? The chances are – it’s the same talk all over again you remember for many years. Perhaps it’s even not your talk. In my case, it always was my mother’s or my father’s phrases, depending on the situation. Recognize it and change it to the following: If it was an achievement of somebody you love the most in the world what would you say to them? Say it to yourself out loud and replace the old talk with the new affirmative sentences. It’s your mind to claim it back to yourself – nobody has a right to occupy your mental space, even your parents.
3. Recognize milestones you met on the way to the bigger goal.
Think big and act step by step. With every milestone, you are closer to the top. Feel yourself a little better with each of them accomplished, take time to recognize the internal feeling of completion, and take a deep breath. We, achievers, don’t breathe deeply and we need to start doing it if we want to live better lives and achieve more.
4. Write down things you learned on the way.
Not necessarily skills but everything about yourself. Skills are important, but personal discovery is the key to everything else. Did you learn patience, recognized some emotional triggers, met with a challenge in communications, made the same mistake as last time? It’s all valuable, don’t take it for granted and learn from it – it’s an accomplishment on its own.
5. Take a deep breath after you complete a long project.
Make some time to do nothing, look into your notes of all you accomplished, all you learned, the way you grew. Imagine, how it can help you and your loved ones in the future.
And, if you are enjoying striving for perfection, keep the good work setting your goals high and dreaming big. Know your physical and emotional boundaries and limitations, and every day make choices moving you closer to your destination. Good luck!
August 31, 2017
by Dr. Maya Sarkisyan
We all want to start our day will good energy and carry it on through the day. We want to achieve something, or just plain feel good.
Starting your day is directly related to how you ended your previous day. The state of your mind in the evening and the quality (and quantity) of your sleep will affect not only the energy you have the following day but your overall health – your digestion, immune system, nervous system, cardiovascular system and everything else.
Many of us can remember all-nighters we were able to pull off and get away with it next day. Some of us still do that, and it’s getting harder to maintain good health without good sleep. Sleep is the king!
During sleep, your body undergoes substantial repairs, and your brain undergoes maintenance as the cellular waste is being flashed from it. It takes a lot of energy to do all this work, and the deeper you sleep, the more successful these repairs and detox.
So it requires some changes in your lifestyle to start towards better night rest. Perhaps not every day, but most days during the week you can perform all the steps. Other days do only your favorites. But once you setup your night environment it will be easy.
I recommend being home for 2 hours before the bedtime. I cannot do it every day because I go out dancing at least once a week, and dance socials such as Argentine tango and Salsa dancing all start very late. So I have to modify this night ritual and feeling less energy next day. I will share in a different post what I do in the morning to get myself back to high energy.
In my LightenUp Body&Mind Transformation program I actually present a Night Ritual as one of essential parts of the program.
So here it is – the 15 steps to better sleep – The Night Ritual.
- Move electronics out of your bedroom. Do it once for a more permanent staff like TV, and every day for smaller stuff like iPads and consoles. I’m surprised that many people find it impossible to do. TV in the bedroom is a big problem for every are in your life. Seriously, move it out.
- Shut down all the screens. Blue light is very stressful for your nervous system. Make sure you have filters or software on your electronic devices to get rid of the blue light.
- Many people use phones as alarms and running apps for measuring sleep/snoring/etc. Put your phone in airplane mode, and turn it face down.
- If you use standard alarm – block it, so you don’t see the screen.
- Keep the temperature cooler during the night than through the day. The best sleep temperature is between 65 and 72 degrees.
- At least two hours before bedtime stop eating anything and don’t drink alcohol. The best it to have your last bite before 7 pm, and have only water or herbal tea after. Sometimes it’s not possible but still, keep it in mind.
- Clean up your environment. It is much better to sleep in a clean room knowing that in the morning you will wake up to an organized space.
- Prepare your morning clothes, so you don’t have to waste your brain power on ordinary tasks. Even if you are going to work out in the morning – prepare your workout outfit and sneakers.
- Relax with a book.
- Get blackout curtains and block all the light sources you can. Get your bedroom as dark as possible.
- If you cannot fall asleep for 30 min – get up, go into another room, have dim lighting only and repeat some of your routines. After 15 minutes you can then go back to bed and try to fall asleep again.
- Drink a cup of herbal tea while reading or listening to relaxing music.
- Journal about the day and write down tasks for tomorrow.
- Take at least 10 minutes to practice mindful relaxation and spiritual practices. Usually, spiritual practices take longer. Examples – Prayer, Meditation, Breathing, Qigong.
- When you are in bed with your eyes closed – practice gratitude. First – appreciate defeats – they teach you valuable lessons. Then – recite gratitudes for which is good and positive in your life – name every little thing and be grateful for it.
Download the “Tibetan Exercise For Hormonal Balance” guide. It will help you to get up in the morning with much better energy.
The steps are not in specific order, and you can move them around, create new steps, and do whatever is necessary to fit it into your idea of relaxation.
But the main idea is this – create an environment in which every night you will be able to be repaired and washed on the cellular level.
Everything is better with health. And sleep is one of its main components.